For every one thing to do after getting engaged, there will be three things you shouldn’t do. We’ve already gone over the importance of informing your friends and family before your followers, but that’s the least of your worries. Keep a level head throughout the euphoria and follow these 5 tips.
1. Don’t commit to anything or anyone (else)
Just because your cousin offered to get ordained online and perform the wedding ceremony, it doesn’t mean that he should. Refrain from agreeing now because it will be harder to get out of it later.
2. Don’t ask people to be in your wedding party just yet
You might have a basic idea of who you want standing by your side on your big day, but don’t choose your party just yet. Especially if you have a long engagement. A lot can change between ‘yes’ and ‘I do’. People move away, friendships evolve, new relationships form. Talk it over with your fiancé and give it some time before you start asking.
3. Don’t make any drastic physical changes
You might feel like you want to lose a drastic amount of weight, have reconstructive surgery, or get your teeth straightened. But drastic changes before the wedding are unnecessary. After all, your partner chose you just the way you are. If you want to make a few small changes for the sake of your health, go for it. But now is not the time to cut out bread, wine, and chocolate (perish the thought) to drop a few dress sizes.
4. Don’t invite anyone to your wedding (yet)
Don’t get so wrapped up in the excitement of announcing your engagement that you invite every person you tell. Unfortunately, you’re bound to tell a few people who will respond with, “Am I invited?” Word to the wise: Do not blurt out “Of course!” Instead, flash a smile and tell them that you haven’t even thought about a guest list yet. As uncomfortable as that might be, it will be more uncomfortable when you tell them yes--and never send an invitation.
5. Don’t forget to thank people
You might be surprised at how many gifts and kind gestures you’ll receive after you announce your engagement. Keep a list of everyone who sends you a gift and be sure to send out a thank you (either by text or a card) within six to eight weeks. You’re going to be sending a lot more thank-you cards after your shower and your wedding, so get in the habit now.